"At various points in my life I've identified as straight, bi, dyke and femme, until I finally settled on queer as the identity that fits me best. Through all of those I've also consistently identified as Fat. I'm actually really proud to be a fat (femme) queer, those are labels I embrace and love, even though I struggle with society's perceptions around them.
I think my queerness is not always very obvious, particularly in the broader hetero world beyond our community, which affords me a certain amount of privilege, and I think therefore responsibility to challenge people’s perceptions about queer identity. Conversely, my fatness is undeniably obvious and it's something that everyone seems to have a (usually negative) opinion on, and unfortunately many of them also feel entitled to share their opinions with me. I don't care. I really just don't care what anyone else thinks of my body, but it makes me really angry when people feel like they're justified in being arseholes to me because of my size.
At the age of 40, I'm finally getting to a point in my life where I genuinely love who I am, inside and out, I've had to fight so hard to get to this point, but it's so worth it. I'm awesome and glorious, no-one and nothing can dull my sparkle."